Earlier this year, I questioned why people stay in relationships, even if the relationship is needy or abusive. Until recently, I couldn’t comprehend why people would be in a relationship that probably isn’t good for them. Now, I have discovered the answer.
First, I need to discuss one of my favorite authors, Richard Yates. Yates’ novels are unique in that they take traditional American dream, like having a job or having a family, and warps it into a dystopic reality. Then, I realized that the main goal of American society, the ultimate sign of success, is to have a spouse and a family. What is a spouse’s origin? The boyfriend/ girlfriend stage.
Whether it is by flashing an engagement ring, publishing it on Facebook, or unknowingly slipping the word “boyfriend” in every other sentence, people, particularly women, like to announce to the world that they are taken.
It doesn’t stop there. The coupled women are always trying to set up their single friends. However, what most coupleds don’t know is that there are two kinds of singles—people who are single by choice and people who are single not by choice.
Now, it isn’t like the singles by choice don’t want to have the same bragging rights as the coupled. There are just a lot of pros to being single like checking out guys at the beach, not having to share every detail of your life with someone or not having to do something someone else wants to do because of the famous compromise. This all sounds very selfish. Then again, isn’t forcing your single friends to listen to how great your boyfriend is even thought he sounds like a douche, really selfish as well?
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